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Comment by William Young on September 24, 2011 at 11:42am

We want what women want but in different ways we as men have suffered many hurts, and disappointments in our lives also so when it comes to making a commitment we are shy because the past experiences we have had it is that we have to trust that by faith the things we have been threw should have made us better for that special woman. Men have been threw the same my sister but as we have matured and know better the meaning of love, love use to be a word that open doors, and hearts and sex up to us before in life but now as we have gone threw some hurt that we afflicted on woman we look at love and opening our hearts more seriously, i don't want to hurt anyone and would not want to be hurt ever again. So i looked at love in the Bible and started applying it to my life and see that i was not on the right page when i was younger so now i approach it more carefully because i don't want to hurt anyone, hurt takes a long time to heal and we can not carry that in to the future with the woman that is going to be a blessing in our lives. I personally will love now more and better and appreciate that woman that loves me in return, and cherish her love and give her the love that it takes to go the long haul, a ear to hear, patients, understanding, and communication that some of what it take to have a productive relationship...

Comment by brownbaby27 on June 21, 2011 at 7:39am

Just for the record Love is none of the above it is not a thinking process it is a emotional process. That is why it is said that love is blind with out a thought. It can sneak up on you and you have not a clue. We will get no where as long as people try to figure out why we love, why we think. Just hook up and see if you can still love.

Comment by MaryB on June 3, 2011 at 10:19pm

That is what I am talking about.   Because once you build that connection and understanding everything else will fall into place.  It would seem almost like you know what she needs and she know what you need.   Relationship is like building, you start by brick, by brick.    But when you deside to change the building material there is a shift in the relationship.   In Mr. Steve Harvey book he talks about whether a man see you as a keeper or a fish he's just throwing back.

Comment by Louis Maye on June 3, 2011 at 9:49pm

I think and feel...it is not ...in thinking like men....but thinking like the man...you want in your life....or thinking like the woman you desire ...which would require one to come to know the mind ...of that man or woman . But the problem with that is... that...more than likely...they both have had experiences ...that have left scars ...wounds that have never completely healed ...thus there exists a barrier that must be over come. Another problem...is that of truly getting to know one another...before indulging in sex... which for me has always been like a gage ...registering the worth of that woman. The sooner she sucombs to my sexual advances ...the less respect ...i will have for her...And in my mind...I will see her as easy. So...if a woman thought like a man she would know...to take control of her emotional ...and sexual desire. For to do so...would garner respect from any and all... men. Now little boys ...may call you out your name ...say things about you ...demeaning things ... but a real man....will have nothing but respect for you . What a man wants is simple ...we want to conquer the woman ...by overcoming her mental defenses ...and get her into bed. But it has not always been that way...men in ancient times had respect for the woman...With the coming of this patriarchal system...we now live in...and the coming of the judeo ...christian....islamic religions ...the woman ...has been villified ....and this due to the literal interpretation ...and teaching of the story of Adam and Eve. This vilification did not...exist prior to this period.

Comment by MaryB on May 28, 2011 at 10:59am

One you know that you connect with someone, both will be will to give themselves to one another.   It not about what's between the sheet, but what truly comes from the heart.    However, this can never take place until all the scars and wounds from past hurt which we as women tend to carry like a garment is healed.

Comment by Rob on May 28, 2011 at 10:39am

Take it from me...I want to please a woman with all my heart and give her much love. and in return just do the same to me.that's all I ask for.

Comment by MaryB on May 28, 2011 at 10:27am

It is not the mindset we should have as a man, but the understand of what a man really want.   When you truly connect with someone it is important to understand what he need and what his desire.   Upon reading Steve Harvey book I realize that I did not and never understood the mens heart, and only understood mine.   With all the hurt and disappointment that we go though in life, it is important that as we age we should find that special someone to connect with.   In this connection you/he is will to give yourself away to that person.

Comment by Steve on May 28, 2011 at 6:22am

Welcome back Sis....We all need the same things from each other.Some our needs maybe greater.

Comment by Rosemary on May 27, 2011 at 5:59pm

To act like a lady isn't hard. First, you should dress in proper clothing that isn't too tight or too revealing. Sip your drinks quietly and don't talk in loud voice. Never use curse words either. If you are with a man, let the man open doors for you and pull your seat out for you.Think like a man is easy too..just don't give a darm! ! !

Comment by Honey on May 27, 2011 at 5:28pm

Amen Sister.....